We’ve noticed that our boys have spent more time on their gadgets and less time on conversing with us.
Conversations like “How was school?” and “Did you have fun at the party?” are all answered with a nonchalant “Fine“.
This type of behavior scares me and makes me frustrated. BUT I also know that no one else to blame but me.
Oh but wait! there is always someone or something to blame and for this instance the mighty IPAD was my enemy of choice. And so it begins our quest to make our kids spend less time on their gadgets and more time with us. And because of this there were new rules that had to be mandated.
and the new rules are…
- No gadgets in the car.
- No gadgets when we go out.
- No gadgets at the table during dinner.
- No more gadgets after dinner (except on the weekends and that’s if all their homework is done.)
- Every time they misbehave an hour is taken away from their precious gadget time.
It’s been over a month now and I think the boys have adjusted just fine. It wasn’t easy in the beginning but we’ve managed to keep their gadget’s time to a minimum and I think we are all better for it (at least that’s what I want to think).
Well for one, the kids communicate more. Now when I ask about their day in school, they start by telling me who was in school and who was home sick like a roll call, then we start with what they did, what food their friends had for lunch and so on and on and on. Seriously, I have to switch off the radio in the car because they want my full attention when they speak something which I don’t mind at all.
Another positive thing I can think of is that the boys obey me more…why? because I always threaten to take away their gadget time if they don’t follow me or make me upset.
But of course just like any addict trying to quit the bad habit our ride hasn’t been smooth sailing.
One example would be when we are waiting for food at a restaurant. Before, when we do eat at sit down restaurants that’s when we always give them their gadgets so they’d sit still and not bother anyone or play with the forks and knives. But because we don’t carry their gadgets everywhere anymore (rule no.2) there’s always drama, drama, drama.
I know that this in not the end of our journey but at least for now I feel like we’re trying to raise well-balanced boys who can one day torture their children the way we did to them…